Are you dating? Are you considering marriage?
Choosing a spouse is the third most important decision you will ever make. The first most important decision in your life is becoming a born again Christian and the second is choosing the right church.
Therefore if you’re single and if you’re looking for the right person to live with for the rest of your life, what warning signs should you look for before you consider a serious relationship with a man?
Below are a 6 types of men that single women should avoid
(1) An Unbeliever
2 Corinthians 6:14-15 – Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? 15 And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever?
The Bible is clear that in the context of binding relationships such as marriage, a Christian does not have anything in common with a non-Christian or unbeliever. A marriage can last when both partners have God involved in their individual lives and are willing to involve God to be at the centre of their marriage.
Therefore it’s important for single women to pray to God to discover a Christian man who genuinely loves the Lord.
(2) A Man Who Dislikes Children
There are millions of single mothers around the world who raise their children alone because many men have abandoned the responsibility of fatherhood. Why do men abandon fatherhood? Most of them are ill-equipped, lack responsibility and dislike children. A man who loves children will not abandon the kids whom he has brought into the world irrespective of the sexual choices he has made.
Proverbs 13:22 – A good man leaves an inheritance to his children’s children, But the wealth of the sinner is stored up for the righteous.
It’s important for a single woman to find out if her man is somebody who genuinely loves children and will not dump her the moment she becomes pregnant.
(3) A Violent & Abusive Man
If a man is abusive and violent before you get married – it’s most likely that such a man will continue this abuse in the marriage. Single women should avoid getting involved with men who are violent and abusive. Instead they should seek men who will nourish and cherish them.
Ephesians 5:28-29 – So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.
(4) A Man Without A Plan
A woman generally looks for security within a man. When a man has no direction or purpose in his life it could be a problem in the long run. God’s principle in a marriage is that the husband is to lead the home and if a husband has no vision or plan, he will fail to lead his family.
Ephesians 5:23 – For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.
(5) An Unfaithful Man
Unfaithfulness in a relationship will lead to anger, pain, mistrust and ultimately a broken relationship.
Unfaithfulness is always a warning sign that a woman should heed before she gets married as adultery is the cause of many broken marriages around the world.
Hebrews 13:4 – Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
Fornication is when an unmarried person is sexually active. Adultery is when a married person is sexually active with another person who is not his spouse.
God does not agree with fornication and adultery because these practices destroy the faithfulness of a person and whilst it may appear pleasurable to engage in sex outside of marriage, the effects are negative and damaging to long term relationships.
(6) A Man Who Abuses Substances
Out of the abuse of drugs and alcohol can come many relationship issues: Physical abuse, financial issues, communication breakdown; sexual & infidelity issues and also spiritual issues. Therefore a man who is addicted to drugs or alcohol will end up causing these kind of issues in a relationship.
Ephesians 5:18 – And do not be drunk with wine, in which is dissipation; but be filled with the Spirit,
The best man that single women can find, is a godly man who loves God and has genuine Christian values.
Are you looking for the right husband? Pray and seek the mind of God and search His word regarding the qualities of a godly person.